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  • Cindy Levin Eaton, Ph.D.

Loneliness vs. Being Alone: Understanding the Crucial Difference

In today's fast-paced and interconnected world, the concepts of loneliness and being alone are often used interchangeably. However, these two experiences are fundamentally different and have unique emotional and psychological implications. Here we will explore the distinctions between loneliness and being alone, shedding light on the importance of understanding these differences for our mental and emotional well-being.

Loneliness: The Emotional Void

When you look up the definition of loneliness, you’ll often find it described as a state of solitude or being alone, but actually, loneliness is a state of mind. Loneliness is a complex and often distressing emotional state characterized by a sense of isolation, disconnection and a lack of social connection, causing people to feel empty, alone and unwanted. People who are lonely often crave human contact, but are finding it difficult to form meaningful connections with others. It's important to note that loneliness can be experienced even when surrounded by people. It's not solely dependent on physical proximity but rather on the quality and depth of social interactions.

Being Alone: The Power of Solitude

Being alone, on the other hand, is a state of physical solitude that doesn't imply loneliness. It is a choice or circumstance where an individual spends time without the presence of other people. Being alone can be a positive and enriching experience when approached with the right mindset.

The Crucial Difference: Defined

Understanding the difference between loneliness and being alone is valuable to our overall well-being. In fact, according to The U.S. Surgeon General’s Advisory on the

Healing Effects of Social Connection and Community, lacking social connection is as dangerous as smoking up to 15 cigarettes a day by increasing risk for premature death. While loneliness can be harmful, being alone can actually be a worthwhile and rejuvenating experience.

Mindset: Alone Time

You can take advantage of all the benefits of your time alone. Embracing your alone time allows for a break from people and restores energy. Explore your interests, engage in self-care and recharge – whatever that means for you. Relax at home with a warm cup of tea, sit under a tree and read a book or take a trip somewhere and finally visit that place you’ve always wanted to go. Identifying a daily or weekly ritual that allows you to take some time away from family, friends and co-workers to reflect can be a powerful tool in creating calm and gaining perspective. There are inexhaustible possibilities of harnessing the power of self-care through alone time.

Consider what type of relationships you want to foster with friends, family and coworkers. Are you focused on building deep and meaningful connections with others that will cultivate quality relationships? Quality over quantity is essential when it comes to social interactions, leaving you more satisfied with the time spent with those people and more content and at peace during time spent alone. Practicing mindfulness and meditation can also help you stay present and content, whether you're alone or in the company of others.

If you find yourself trapped in chronic loneliness and unable to create a shift in mindset, consider working with a coach, like Sibly, who can work with you and help you get through those difficult times while helping you to move forward in creating the rich social connection that keeps us healthy. Sibly’s motivational approach to support those experiencing loneliness is extremely effective, with many members able to refocus and find new strategies that work for them, personalized to their needs.


In conclusion, loneliness and being alone are distinct experiences with varying emotional and psychological implications. Loneliness is a painful emotional state characterized by isolation and disconnection, while being alone is a state of physical solitude that is positive and enriching when approached mindfully. Striking a balance between these two states is essential for our mental and emotional well-being. By understanding these differences, we can navigate our social lives more effectively and find fulfillment in both solitude and companionship.


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